March 30, 2005

"i'd rather be real than great"

Good point from Evelyn Rodriguez:

I'd rather be real than great. I have never gained anything I truly wanted from a pure pursuit of greatness. I'm not saying these two are mutually exclusive, but the focus can lead one astray. Nothing kills relationships - personal and professional - quicker than when I stop being real. It's costly in the tangible cash realm too.
Maybe being real is a form of greatness...

Posted by hugh macleod at March 30, 2005 10:33 AM | TrackBack
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At the risk of sounding flippant, but of course being real is a form of greatness. Being real implies honesty and integrity, and possibly also loyalty. All of these are great character traits, and are valued by many when they find them in others.

Posted by: Stephen at March 30, 2005 1:35 PM

I agree with Stephen. And take the question one step further, can you be truly great without being real?

Posted by: Niti at March 30, 2005 4:18 PM

Loyalty comes easy when you're not focused on the call to greatness.

http://engrm.com/blogometer/2005/03/30/honesty.html

Posted by: Alan Gutierrez at March 30, 2005 5:28 PM

You can be "great" and false...but only for a while. People eventually catch on.

Deciding to be real and "exceptional" (which for me means being more/better than I am now) requires trust. Not just that I can do it, but also trust that I'll be awake enough to recognize people and ideas that can teach me. And that I'll do the same, more for the sake of helping others than to advance my cause.

As Evelyn says:

"Don't be fooled. Leaders and teachers surround us - rarely will they be in the guise of pastors, masters, CEOs and venture capitalists. Real conversations can happen anywhere - between anyone."

Funny how you throw the word "greatness" out there and a valuepack of societal neuroses bubble up to the surface. But then, maybe that was Hugh's intent from the beginning.

Posted by: Timbo at March 30, 2005 6:13 PM

Actually is was Hugh's original statement about the poor not being able to afford him that got me thinking about the Call to Greatness, where I stood. That I'd rather connect directly with people of similar disposition, than struggle to make myself understood to those that different incentives.

Posted by: Alan Gutierrez at March 30, 2005 7:40 PM

Best comment I've heard recently that applies to this, at a recent "Hollywood" event.

Someone I had worked with said that it was nice to talk with the "real people" and I replied, "I'm real?"

The reply was "Hell yes, you're too bitter to be fake."

Yay, Bitterness, Yay!!!

Posted by: Jon at March 30, 2005 7:43 PM

I'd rather be rich and living on the west coast.

Posted by: SteveG at March 31, 2005 12:42 AM

I'm just trying not to be a real a-hole.

That's hard enough.

Posted by: Robert Scoble at March 31, 2005 1:10 AM

If you really want to keep it real, save a small portion of the extraordinry insight you use to pimp hand made suits and use it on the promotion and development of new approaches to vaccination that will alleviate childhood disease and cancers. Then we'll see some worthy application of your mighty philosophical engine.

Posted by: Steve Griffiths at March 31, 2005 7:13 PM

Really, Steve Griffiths? Do we really want all creative, extraordinary people working on diseases and "saving the children"? Kind of a one-note life for our species, don't ya think? No music, no literature, no paintings, no fancy new suits...

Instead of the "gotta make the donuts" guy from the old Dunkin Donuts commercial, we'll all be walking around grumbling, "gotta save the children."

Posted by: stacey at April 1, 2005 2:08 AM

I'm just trying to be a real a-hole...

Posted by: hugh macleod at April 1, 2005 7:38 AM

Notice my qualifier of perhaps using a small portion of your creative energy. There's still plenty left for suits, literature and pursuit of the aesthetic. Science, the only real growth industry, needs brilliant a-holes yielding Occam's razor too.

Posted by: Steve Griffiths at April 1, 2005 11:46 AM